If you need to leave to protect yourself and your children, it helps to plan in advance so that if that time comes, you are ready and safe to do so.
Thinking about different situations or patterns can help to plan. If you need to leave, when will be the best time to do so? Maybe your partner works, goes to the gym or to the pub. Knowing patterns in timings can help with your planning.
Make sure you have all of the important documents and telephone numbers you need close to hand.
Do your children know how to ring 999 in emergency? If not, teach them what they would need to say (full name, address and phone number)
If you’re close to your neighbours, it might be a good idea to tell them about what is happening and ask them to call the police if they hear sounds of an attack.
Pack an emergency bag and hide it somewhere safe (a neighbour or friends house perhaps). Make sure you have some form of identification, some money including change, medication, clothing, important documents and any sentimental items.
Thinking about leaving and making the decision to go can be a long and difficult process. If leaving isn’t an option for you right now, think about ways you can stay safer in your home. If you suspect your partner is about to attack you, try to stay away from the kitchen or the garage (where there are likely to be knives or weapons) and stay close to a door should you need to make a quick exit.
More information on safety plans and preparing to leave can be found on the Women’s Aid website.